A Dad's Appreciation...

This is what it means to bring a son to a football match....



A Dad's Appreciation...

Bird's Nest Stadium: Venue for game v Man City


(Ed’s note – The author is an Irish journalist and long-time Arsenal fan (witnessing League Cup final heartache as a nine-year-old in 1969) now living in China.)

The Gunners are coming to play a pre-season match in Beijing. The supporting act, apparently, is a team from Manchester. Not too sure how many will turn up to see them. Well, do they have a tube station named after them? Did they introduce numbers on shirts? How many doubles have they won? Arsenal won three doubles - 1971, 1998, 2002; that qualifies us for Alcoholics Anonymous. Our snooker-table pitch has won more prizes than most clubs. We even have a manager, Arsène Wenger, whose name sounds like Arsenal. Hold it! Offside flag raised. Actually, so do the team from Manchester. But we did it first. Biased?

My son Fionn (12) and I disagree on many things; broccoli is good for you, school is important, computer games are not educational, but we agree on one big thing - Arsenal. But he has never been in their presence. For him, on this issue, it is faith of our fathers. He has seen them on TV, read about them in magazines and newspapers, discussed the urgent need for a tough-tackling midfielder, he has idolised them from afar. I am convinced that his first words were Arsène Wenger. The first realisation I had that my son’s vocabulary was expanding beyond Harry Potter was his reaction when van Persie missed a sitter against Chelsea. “Let’s not say that again, it’s not a good word,’’ I told him, laying down the law firmly. Three minutes later Vermaelen missed an even easier sitter and we both yelled the verboten word.

And now they are coming to Beijing. He will see them. In the flesh. Yes, I know, the match is described as a friendly, a pre-season encounter of less importance than a Sunday newspaper on a Friday. Not important? Football not important?

Being a football fan is for life. Jobs are changed, spouses are changed, eating habits are changed. No fan would ever be so fickle. “For the next year I’ll support City, come August I’ll switch to United and round off the year shouting for Rovers.’’ It wouldn’t happen. In years to come, my son will realise that I have enormous feet of clay, we will have the usual disgreements, I will disappoint him. He will do his own thing, set forth on his own path. But I believe in magic. I know that at a certain time on a Saturday, wherever he is in years to come, he will look at the classified results and see how a team based in north London, with a tube station named after it, did. He may even think of the time we went to watch the match in Beijing. I know I will. Arsenal against Manchester City. A game? To borrow loosely from Shakespeare, Our revels are never ended. These are our actors. It’s the stuff dreams are made of.


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  1. ppp

    Mar 30, 2012, 19:37 #20762

    Great article - everyone remembers their first game. Superb!

  2. Radfordkennedy

    Mar 29, 2012, 17:53 #20719

    A great piece Tom,I can assure you your son will never forget his first match ever.When my dad took me for the first time back in 69 i will never forget being led by the hand down Conewood street and across the road to the East stand upper turnstiles absolutley petrified,i had never seen so many people in one place in my life(curiously as i type this i can almost smell that heady mixture of Bovril,Horses**t and those curious burgers that they use to sell that seemed to be boiled).Once inside and climbing an endless staircase being almost suffocated by those packed tightly going up the stairs,i remember being really scared by the sheer numbers and the noise but this was all to dissappear when we reached the gangway to our seats i was totally overawed by the sight of the pitch under flood lights it was almost magical,and that was it, the game was up for me nothing else really mattered i was totally hooked on the Gunners.I have experienced like all you Gooners tremendous highs and and lows following the Gunners and have been to some wonderful stadiums abroad,but nothing will be quite as good as that cold night all those years ago

  3. Yanto

    Mar 29, 2012, 11:48 #20704

    "Thank-You" a most enjoyable read..enjoy your day watching THE Arsenal...may it linger long for all the right reasons. U.T.A :O)

  4. Andrew Cohen

    Mar 29, 2012, 8:06 #20695

    @Mike. I have often wondered whether we are paying their wages. Average ticket price £50x58,000x40 =£116million. That isn't as big as our wage bill, and the operating costs must be astronomical notwithstanding that wages are always the biggest part of the budget. The hole in my theory I'm afraid is that if they can't resist fleecing us when they have more money than they can possibly know what to waste it on, will their attitude be any different if the gate money is all that they receive. We have lost the club to people who only want fortnum's and harvey nick's customers.

  5. Jekyll

    Mar 28, 2012, 21:03 #20692

    Got tickets for a friend and his two kids to go for the first time this season. The primary purpose was to convert the 6 year old from supporting Chelsea and thankfully it worked as we won. Cost £150 for the 4 of us though to sit in the cheapest seats in the stadium, so we're not doing it regularly. Like others I hope the bubble bursts and it'll be possible for more people to take kids and pass on the baton in a way it simply isn't at the moment.

  6. Derby Gooner

    Mar 28, 2012, 16:39 #20690

    @Judge Fred. My dad (also RIP) took me to the same game as my first match. I remember the very green grass of the pitch. We were in the West stand lower as my mum had been giving him some earache all week over us getting separated on the North Bank. £1.20 new money for a ticket if I recall ? Hot bovril at half time - too hot to hold in the plastic cup. A good win - you must have a win to remember. 30-odd years later I took my own lad to highbury for the first time in October 2003 to see the League-cup game against Rotherham; half-term, very late mid-week finish and a long drive north - remember all those penalties ? (won 9-8 ) and so I also passed on the baton, but in those last seasons at Highbury, the league cup provided the only access to Highbury for us in remote outposts. We sat in the north bank upper, right in line with goal, and wondered at the skills and potential of a young Spanish lad who came on as sub wearing number 57 - you will all know who! Tom, I hope and expect that your Beijing experience will be as memorable as mine - they will surely last a lifetime.

  7. Kripakar Marur

    Mar 28, 2012, 14:58 #20687

    Lovely article

  8. maguiresbridge gooner

    Mar 28, 2012, 14:29 #20686

    Tom It will be a great experience for your son and your self the first time i brought my son seeing and listening to what was going on around him he soon got into the swing of things yes the Beijing match may be only a friendly but it will be great to see them in the flesh and make sure the gooner blood flows forever.And then further down the line a trip to the emirates (i realize it wouldn't be easy)but you never know.

  9. Der Projekt ist Kaput

    Mar 28, 2012, 13:32 #20683

    Took my eldest son to Highbury for his first Arsenal match in 1998 and later took both my sons when I could (still do this now - but opportunities are far less of course). I regularly look at photo's of us all grinning away in the Clock End. Great memories. I'm pleased for you and your own son to be able to see the team - but how sad the reason for going there is little to do with pleasing fans, but all to do about merchandising.

  10. ed lawrie

    Mar 28, 2012, 13:28 #20682

    Taking kids to their first game is nostalgic for your own reminisences but you shouldn t expect too much.I took nephews to Highbury who were intimidated by the torrents of abuse directed towards the opposing centre forward. However my daughter went a couple of seasons ago v City and chanted WONKA at Abeybayor incessantly as did the majority of the crowd that day and had a great time. However she went to the majority of the home losses last season and it does affect kids enthuiasm when its a moaning ,grumbling crowd . Maybe the match going experience is being taken too seriously these days

  11. Gooner1711

    Mar 28, 2012, 12:45 #20681

    Good for you!!!! Make sure that you get the stadium full of red and white and show the whole of China our HISTORY. Arsenal fans are built up over a period of time, not 2-3 seasons only to move on. Get the message round so that every Chinese Gooner sees the match and show the Passion I know Far East fans have for the Arsenal, as well as exiles. UTA!

  12. Judge Fred

    Mar 28, 2012, 11:26 #20679

    In the same way that my dad (RIP) took me for the first time to Highbury to see us play against Newcastle in 70/71, I took my son to see us play Southampton at Highbury 30 years later. I was immensely proud taking my child for the first time to Highbury, a very emotional moment. It was as though I was passing the baton to the next generation of Gooner. I have done my duty - we are an Arsenal family forever.

  13. Theo Hou

    Mar 28, 2012, 11:09 #20678

    So nice father you are!I am a Beijing Arsenal fan,of course,I will go nest bird to see this brilliant match with my wife.According Arsenal Asia tour last summer,there will more than 40,000 gooners around here at that time,even 50.000.So,we gooners will give all power to show passion ,to show our loyalty

  14. Mike

    Mar 28, 2012, 10:56 #20676

    @Andrew Cohen - I am at the opposite end of the pendulum when it comes to most of your posts - but this one I am 100% with you - players and agents wages are responsible for a lot of the problems. Unfortunately, if you do not have anybody will to throw his personal money at the club, the majority of the wages must be funded by ticket sales

  15. Brian Dawes

    Mar 28, 2012, 9:25 #20675

    One of the joys of being a regular home fan is being in a position to acquire tickets for family, friends and overseas visitors who don't share our regular privileged viewing. I have yet to meet any Arsenal fan attending for the first time who didn't absolutely love it no matter what the result. I won't cross the street for a pre-season friendly these days but I know Tom and his son Fionn will love it.

  16. Andrew Cohen

    Mar 28, 2012, 8:19 #20670

    It's a wonderful thing to take your children or your friends to the game for the first time, and to watch their interest grow. All that could be said on that subject is said best by Nick Hornby in "Fever Pitch". Then came Rupert Murdoch with his Sky television and billion pound payments to the league. Then came the Champions League. The net result of this "bounty" has been football match seats which cost £40-75 per game and players (and their agents) who are so bloated with cash that they can barely be bothered or motivated to turn up and play. Yes the magic lives on, but it will take the collapse of the money go round to return the game to the people. The 75% wage cut for the top earners at Rangers is a fate that cannot come fast enough for the premiership as far as I am concerned. Then perhaps people can take their children to the games again.